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How to quickly calm down after you got angry of something and how to not be easily raged?

 

If you live alone it's way easier: just yell. Unfortunately I'm not an adult yet and thus cannot buy own house. An apartment don't work. Suburbs work.

Or just Kung Fu the shit out of a neighboring item or something

 

Just get a literal punching bag. Or a reverse punching bag ( fill bottom up with water, still works). Problem solve

 

I'm selfish and my teammates want me dead lol

 

If I even KNOW someone is selfish I immediately want to go on fortnite and kill them in tilted towers with an impulse grenade.

 

I can help you with that. Not many of you know this, but I've been through a lot of emotional pain and problems ever since I was 9, and I've learned a few things about controlling my temper as well.

 

If you're talking about agressiveness, we need to hold a contest to see who is more aggressive.

Seriously, when someone steals a mere pen cap from me, I think they feel like they are facing the swat police in a riot rather than some kid. Or something real aggressive ( killer bee? Terciopelo? Giant desert centipede?), but you get the idea. I don't have many friends, but I actually like that. Nobody to annoy me when I'm trying to mind my own business. I like solitude. Well, i PREFER solitude. I'm fine with people, but I'm extremely uncomfortable around strangers.

 

Well is it my turn now? I am extrovert, but I can get along with all kinds of people, extroverts and introverts. I enjoy solitude, but also the company of others. I was a bit of rebel when I was younger, liked to make fun of everything. Now most of you probably have another image of me. Old, serious, maybe (too) sceptical. But it I still like joking around, I like to make word-jokes. The latter can be seen in the chat rooms quite often. Not everybody gets them and not all are funny. Being serious, does not mean you cannot tell jokes as well.

I don't care about age, I have friends who are teenagers and much, much older friends. My oldest friend, who was 86, died last year...sadly.

I am autodidact and a perfectionist, oh and I can be quite deeeeep. I make my own life difficult, but also other peoples life because of it. But I love people and help where ever I can(not always their behaviour), nature, photography, music, languages, learn new things, theology, science, etc, etc. Too much for just one life time, even if I was healthy.

And I am persistant, not everybody appreciates that. If I want something done and it does not happen or someone promises me to call or do something, I don't rest before it is done. The local counsel knows that all too well. Good or bad trait? You decide.

And I hate injuistice, abuse, bullying, indifferance, arrogance, breaking promises, slacking and selfishness. Although I think the first 6 are all caused by the last, namely selfishnesss or selfcenteredness. This makes me angry and people who don't work together also in Battle Bay.


Enough said about me, unless someone has any questions.

Best wishes,
Flint

 

I think I'll get least aggressive. IRL, I'm an introvert, except at home, and I rarely ever get mad enough for a real fight. And even so, it's verbal, mostly.

And to anyone feeling bad about bad grades:

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I got 66% on two tests last school year (7th grade)

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Overall grades are all still over 95%

 

Sometimes it is best just to walk away for a while when it happens. Just say 'best to talk about it later when I am a little calmer'. And it is hard, but refocusing your thoughts helps too. If you stop thinking about it what makes you mad, you keep feeding your anger. Which will only make you feel worse.

And afterwards just talk about it, ask why some people do what they did or why they said what they did. Not all people are open to a discussion. Then it is best to say it and leave the problem with them.

 

BUMP!
This thread is too beautiful to be buried under nerf and update threads.

 

I have had serious rage issues since I was young, I would see red and go off on whatever made me mad. I decided to hold back my emotions and just feel nothing so I wouldn't hurt people or break thing I care about. Doing this seemed to work as I have not had an episode in many years but now I feel empty inside, I don't feel the bad but I don't feel the good either. It feels as if I'm going through the motions of my own life and nothing really matters anymore.
Now that I'm a bit older and more mature I think I can handle my anger better but don't know how to "turn my emotions back on".
I have been unable to develop any kind of relationship with other people whether it be friend, girlfriend etc. and have just become lonely despite being surrounded by people.

Does anyone have experience with a similar issue who can help me find my way back to normalcy?

 

Oof. This is like an introvert that takes their love of loneliness everywhere, but it's actually an extrovert in the end.

I dunno, mate. I get angry ( example: somebody pushes me down for absolutely no reason and I flip them off in front of the whole phys ed class[ I actually did this]) but I don't hold back my anger. I think practice makes perfect. Eventually when surrounded by peeps you will get your emotions back. Time mends.

 

That was my original thought, that if I fake it for long enough it would become real but that doesn't seem the case. And after avoiding people for so long I don't have the social skills to develop meaningful friendships :/

 

Have you tried funny videos? Laughing might help. I don't know shit I ain't at this level of knowledge yet
I have no idea lol I'm just a middle schooler pretending to have 1% of the knowledge an adult with a degree does...

Uuhhh.. good luck

 

I found that trying sports and physical activity releases my emotions a bit. If you try boxing, pretend the punch bag is the guy you hate lol.

Anyway, meet new people if friendships don't take off with the people around you.

I know that I'm not the best support and the advice I gave is really obvious, trying a new sport, no matter what age you are ,really helps.